Who are people pleaser?

"Physically you may smile,

   But mentally you are sadden" 

When I went through an article, came across the most famous phrase called "people pleaser" many of us fit to it. At that moment, perceived that i'm addict to pleasing others. Many times neglected my own works for others, found hard to say "No" and maintain appropriate boundaries. I was a persistent people pleaser. Though tried to deny, it became unavoidable. At a point suffered with complete impotence to say "No" to any or request from people, even though i sacrificed my own happiness, none had courtesy to do return. Then, i understood i'm not here to complete someone's task. Henceforth underwent a research to overcome this irrational syndrome(people pleaser). After all, recovered from it. Some of ways to stop people pleasing...

"I'm done living for others; I'm

done being people pleaser; I'm

done smiling for others; Now,

gonna live my own life."

People Pleaser:
                          People Pleaser are very kind people, who help everyone at favor.Their happiness depends on others praise and approval, but the self-confidence and self-esteem are abysmally low. People pleasing is kind of distorted thinking, leads to disaster.

Behavior of People Pleaser:
                                              They are  always long to help others, carve for compliments. they never bring out their own opinion . People Pleasers are not coward or losers, they hide their own feelings from others to portrait themselves as kind and lovely people. Slaughtering never give ratification, most of times come out with "Botox smile". They apologize for everything, consistently getting hurt from others. But refuse to burst out, leads kind of mental pressure and depression. Everyone frisk with their puniness. People Pleasers contemplate, there are very harsh to others.they never ever recognize their strength and talents.dramatically, dependent on others who never even think about them.

Common signs of People Pleasing:

1.They never say "no".

2.They never raise your voice in front of the people,most times its different from others.

3.Self-confidence and self-esteem comparatively low.

4.They afraid to comment on other's fault.

5.At times, feel They are drowsing.

6.They avoid praising or appreciating themselves.

7.They easily attract people who need to be solaced.

8.They are over-responsible.

9.Often feel exhausted and restless.

10.They often let them down.

People Pleasers be...

Causes of People Pleasing:

                        It is dashing our self in a stone. It loses our originality.People pleaser go out of their choice to keep others happy "if u aren't happy inside, u can't keep others happy". I've ever seen this quote. But it is rather popular(suite to this topic).doesn't mean that helping everyone brings out pleasure. we are totally steamrolled into doing things what everyone else want, this kind of things never brings out pleasure and inner happiness.There are people who makes use of your weakness.

Some ways to stop pleasing syndrome:

1.Stop saying "yes" to others offers or request.

2.Understand the difference between "goodwill" or" people pleasing".

3.Ever let u down in front off others, say what u really want to.

4.Be brave enough to face criticism.

5.Set appropriate firm in life.

6.Stay away from fake people and negative vibes.

7."Sacrifice" things who really worth for it.

8.If someone hurt you, say them not to repeat.

9.Start to be "selfish" at times.
10.Give importance to your feelings and need.

Set Boundaries

"Learn yourself, Lead yourself."

                                                     - Divya Natarajan

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